Christ be our light.

Christ be our light.
“Every home is called to become a ‘domestic church’ in which family life is completely centered on the lordship of Christ and the love of husband and wife mirrors the mystery of Christ’s love for the Church, his bride,” Pope John Paul I

Thursday, April 10, 2014

Why I like the Old Sitcoms, including Father Knows Best.


 Not too long ago I watched a video of an interview of Billy Gray who played  Bud Anderson in the 1950's sitcom, Father Knows Best.
 In the interview he states what he feels was the problem with the show. He tells us that the worst problem Bud ever had was losing his skate key. He didn't feel in all the years of the show they addressed any real issues. He says that the show did not include any black people and it was very sexist because women did things to try and trap men and the mother stayed home and took care of the house.

I have watched several seasons of the show and I have to say Billy Gray is not totally correct. I can't say anything about whether or not there were black people in the show because I haven't seen all seasons but in Father Knows Best there is sibling rivalry, arguing, back biting, lying, stealing, yelling, running away, laziness and more. You get the idea; family problems. In today's entertainment these situations are found also.  The difference is that in Father Knows Best the problem is solved, usually in a moral way. Now I may not always agree with the way James Anderson, the father, played by Robert Young, handled the situation but I have to admit it is much better than what you might find on today's show.  These issues may pale in consideration to the problems of today, especially with the internet and all electronics but in some ways they are very similar. Maybe these are the small issues but doesn't Solomon 2:15 say:

15 Catch us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vineyards, for our vineyards are in blossom."   

In one episode of Father Knows Best, young Bud is caught lying. He tries to cover his lie by lying more. Finally in the end, he has to tell the truth. The response by the father I think is a very great response and IMHO one of the best responses in family sitcoms. He had already told Bud that if went to a certain place he would lose his allowance for 3 months. Bud snuck out of the house and went where he was not supposed to be. With a certain turn of events he needed to confess. The father told Bud because he told the truth and that he wanted Bud to know the weight of honesty he would reconsider the punishment.

Of course, today shows like Father Knows Best where we try to solve our problems in a moral way are gone. Lost. Shows are about sex and not even sex between a husband and wife, just sex and homosexuality and how it is okay to break up the family. These shows reek of immorality and are horrible examples to society.

The reasons I like Father Knows Best, The Donna Reed Show, Ozzie and Harriet, and the Dick Van Dyke Show is because they did not need to include sex to get a laugh. They solved their problems in ways that were meant to build the family. Meant to keep the family together. Were there problems in the families, yes, but morals were not made fun of and laughed at and called "syrupy". They were upheld. I did not grow up in that era and my family life had problems too and sometimes they were solved in good ways and sometimes in not so good ways. I wish my growing up years our family was closer. I know families that are close today and that is what I strive for and pray for; a moral, godly, Catholic family.

What we put in our eyes, ears and mind will shape our thoughts and our actions. Should we not watch something that builds us up?

In Miranda Prorsus, Encycyclical of Pope Pius XII on the Communications Field: Motion Pictures, Radio, Television September 8, 1957 he states:

"for these new means of communication clearly have a great influence on the way individuals and human society as a whole think and act." 

Doesn't it seem that still holds true today.

and:

"17. The remarkable progress made by modern technology in the fields of motion pictures, radio, and television have given rise to great benefits, and to just as great dangers. For these new means of communication are within the reach of almost everyone, and thus exercise a powerful influence over men's minds. They can enlighten, ennoble, and adorn men's minds, but they can also disfigure them with dark shadows, disgrace them with perversity, and expose them to unrestrained passions, according as the shows they offer present our senses with objects that are proper or improper.[11]
18. During the past century the technological progress made by industry has often had this result, that the machines which were intended to serve man have actually reduced him to serfdom, to his great loss. And so today the mounting technological advances in communicating pictures, sounds, and ideas must be subjected to the sweet yoke of the law of Christ[12] if they are not to become a source of countless evils which will be all the more serious in that they will enslave not only the powers of nature but also those of the soul. In this event, man's inventions would be stripped of that beneficent usefulness which, in God's provident design, is their primary purpose."

and:

"43. Indeed, this should be the primary aim of motion pictures, radio, and television: to serve truth and virtue.
44. They should serve the spread of truth so that the bonds between peoples will be made closer, so that men will have better mutual understanding and will assist one another in time of crisis, and, finally so that there will be genuine cooperation between public authority and individual citizens."

and:

"the heaviest responsibility falls on the authors and producers, though for a different reason. Awareness of this burden does not impede worthwhile undertakings, but ought rather to strengthen the minds of those who are endowed with good will and are influential in the production of films by reason of their financial position or natural talent."

There is so much more to that encyclical but you kind of get the idea.

True we don't all live perfect, loving lives all the times and our families don't always solve problems the way Mr. Anderson did, we are sinners and in need of Our Savior and his guidance given through the Catholic Church,  but wouldn't it be better to strive for that loving atmosphere then to adopt a give up attitude that says, "my family is not like that and won't be so I am not going to watch it. Instead I am going to watch a show with worse problems than mine and I will feel better." 

No, I am not Margaret Anderson or Donna Stone, for one thing I don't smile like that while doing laundry,
but watching women who cared for their families and homes plus cared about their families and homes are good influences and right now it is pretty hard to find good mothering influences. I am not a feminist and I find that caring for and about my family is the most rewarding thing I could do and I bet more women would make that choice to come home also if the influences were there, if the encouragement was there.

As Proverbs 31:27  states:    She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.  
 


          and Titus 2: 3 - 7 Bid the older women likewise to be reverent in behavior, not to be slanderers or slaves to drink; they are to teach what is good, 4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be sensible, chaste, domestic, kind, and submissive to their husbands, that the word of God may not be discredited.


The best mother in the world was our Blessed Mother. It doesn't get any better than Mary for our motherly example but for television viewing and female influences to watch for entertainment, check out the old sitcoms.  Were they perfect, no, but they were better and much more traditionally family oriented and couldn't we use a lot more of that today.

Saturday, December 28, 2013

Merry Christmas

May everyone have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

       We try to remember Christmas through
 the 12 days of Christmas and beyond. At least until Epiphany. I heard someone the other day on EWTN say we should remember Christmas until the Feast of the Baptism, so I hope you haven't stopped celebrating the birth of our Lord yet but continue to enjoy the season.







Just a little note, we celebrated Christmas Eve this year at midnight mass. It was beautiful. Half hour of beautiful carols, followed by a beautiful mass with the incense, the altar servers, 3 priests and a deacon and of course Our Lord in the Eucharist.  It was awesome. At the end of mass, the parish turned out the lights, leaving only the Christmas tree lights and we all sang Silent Night. I loved it.


I love being Catholic. It is a challenge and not always easy in this culture but I know God is my help and it is His Church.


Monday, December 2, 2013

Advent Wreath


 Happy first week of Advent.


I had been wanting to do my advent wreath different for the last couple of years. Part of the reason was that the taper candles never stay standing up straight. Strange but that always bothered me, so I bought these thicker, shorter candles and used a pine wreath. Then added the burlap tie and placed it all in a vintage pie tin. For aroma, I added cinnamon berries, so not only does it look festive for Advent but smells great too. I think it turned out pretty good. There are different ways to do an Advent wreath and you can make it fun or to your own taste. I usually set up my Advent wreath along with Christmas decorations. I try to stay away from the commercialism of the season and focus on the purpose of Advent and Christmas; waiting for his coming and celebrating his coming. The tree will go up in a couple of days but I have put out a few other decorations. I put out my crèche without Jesus. He will show up Christmas Eve. I try to just take it slow enjoying the season.

Have a blessed day.

Sunday, December 1, 2013

Advent

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It is the first week of Advent. We just got back in town and I will be putting my Advent wreath up tomorrow, so hopefully will be posting it on here for you all to see. I am trying to live a simpler and a more country life and hopefully can create something a little more simple this year. It is a long story which I may tell sometime on here but we had a fire this summer, with a lot of smoke damage and have come to realize I had a lot of stuff that needed taken out and cleaned and I did not want to put it all back in the house, so I have done a lot of decluttering and looking more to simpler ways, so we'll see what it looks like tomorrow. See you and have a blessed Jesus and Mary day.

Thursday, October 31, 2013

Qadishat: "In order to be able to speak about the time of pe...

I haven't posted for a while but I can across this post and thought I would post it with the link since due to the times we are living in it seems very important. We never know what the future holds and do not know when persecution will happen our way. The world is in such a very very desperate need for God but doesn't know it is turning away from Him in vast numbers. Let us all live out our faith.

Blessed Mother help us.

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Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Catholic Mom's Cafe: Seriously - who enjoys doing the laundry?

Catholic Mom's Cafe: Seriously - who enjoys doing the laundry?: In my Laundry Room As I carefully fold my sheets, Smoothing out the wrinkles,                                            ...

Friday, May 3, 2013

Pleasant Family Meal Times

I think my family would get a little laugh at this video. It is outdated and seems kind of hard to reach when first watching but I think that maybe looking at it as ideals to aim for might be a good idea. There is nothing in this that isn't said in scripture:  " Love one another, or Better is a dinner of herbs, where love is, than a stalled ox and hatred therewith, or A gentle tongue is a tree of life; but perverseness therein is a breaking of the spirit."

How many times do we hear someone say, "have at least one meal together a week as a family."?  A lot. That is what I get out of this video. Ideas that say, share the family meal, make it special, share your day and ideas and show love and compassion to one another and keep the meal from being a place of strife and rush.

Well, anyhow, I see this as  a video with guidance for meal times. This video dates back to the 1950's, which shows even then people were needed to be reminded what the family meal should be.

An Awesome Prayer, for such a time as this and hope we don't lose it.

I love to watch old shows. I love old movies and I love all the old sitcoms. I thought today I would watch a Father Knows Best. I first started watching a Christmas episode and then I decided it was too early and thought I would watch a Thanksgiving episode and then I ran across this. Many times people make fun of sitcoms such as Father Know's Best and maybe especially because they think it is corny but much of what happened in this episode still happens today. Father said something he shouldn't have. He criticized the youngest daughter's poem and hurt the little girl terribly. He needed to apologize and she was very forgiving. Isn't that how we should be of each other in our families. Forgiving. We know we will hurt each other but we learn to be forgiving. Hurting someone as we all do at times and then needing their forgiveness makes us realize how important they are to us.

Father also realized how grateful he was to live in a country where he could pray and worship and have religious freedom and also freedom of speech. This family was very grateful for such things. Things that seem to be at stake for us right now. Things that could be lost in the near future. I hope to remember this Thanksgiving and everyday our freedoms and pray they are maintained and pray through this time of uncertainty over the universal health care and the freedom of the Catholic church that more Catholics will grow in their faith and reach out to the world.




Diane