“Every home is called to become a ‘domestic church’ in which family life is completely centered on the lordship of Christ and the love of husband and wife mirrors the mystery of Christ’s love for the Church, his bride,” Pope John Paul I

Friday, May 3, 2013

Pleasant Family Meal Times

I think my family would get a little laugh at this video. It is outdated and seems kind of hard to reach when first watching but I think that maybe looking at it as ideals to aim for might be a good idea. There is nothing in this that isn't said in scripture:  " Love one another, or Better is a dinner of herbs, where love is, than a stalled ox and hatred therewith, or A gentle tongue is a tree of life; but perverseness therein is a breaking of the spirit."

How many times do we hear someone say, "have at least one meal together a week as a family."?  A lot. That is what I get out of this video. Ideas that say, share the family meal, make it special, share your day and ideas and show love and compassion to one another and keep the meal from being a place of strife and rush.

Well, anyhow, I see this as  a video with guidance for meal times. This video dates back to the 1950's, which shows even then people were needed to be reminded what the family meal should be.

Saturday, April 20, 2013

Our Sunday Visitor posts in 2011, still true today.

When Catholicism was respected in U.S. culture

Believe it or not, there was a time when the media identified the faith with core American principles

By Robert P. Lockwood - OSV Newsweekly, 1/16/2011
Growing up in Yonkers, N.Y., in the 1950s, I assumed that most everyone in the world was Catholic. There were Jewish kids peppered here and there, but we just didn’t meet that many Protestants.

Read more here

Sunday, March 24, 2013

It is not the 1950's. What?

Why does it seem as if when moral issues are brought up someone, somewhere makes the comment, "It is not the 1950's" or "Get out of your 1950's mindset."? What is up with this? What is it about the 1950's that bothers people of today? I mean it isn't like there wasn't sin then, or babies weren't being born out of wedlock or divorce or racism or theft or murder didn't exist, because they did.  People sinned then, also.

So, what is it about the 1950's that bothers people. Is it the way they perceive it or is it because we are looking at it with 1960's and beyond shades?

So, looking at that time and prior to the 1950's, family was valued.  Families enjoyed meals together. They would discuss life and morals during family meals. They fellowshipped with each other at that time and since they didn't go out to eat as much I would imagine they ate healthier.

Morals and family values then, we see, were held at a higher level. There is a definite attack on family today.  In the 1950's the divorce rate was at 15%. Was that because everything was good and great in a family. No. People still sinned and argued and even had children out of wedlock, so why was the divorce rate lower. Perhaps at that time people took the idea of a covenant much higher dthan they do today.  Vows were made. Promises to be kept, through it all and in the end they could say they made it. They fought the good fight and they grew in love of each other. Unconditional love. Today, our divorce rate is 50%, thanks to no-fault divorce.  I certainly don't want to throw any stones at anyone and I am in constant prayer over my own family because this statistic can be frightening. I love my family and want it to last. I love seeing the little old man and woman who say their marriage lasted many years and they are still together.  They are my heroes.

So, do people like to attack this time period because of the divorce rate of today and it is a reminder to them of their own divorce and a feeling of being inferior in a sense of not being able to live up to the ideal of that time period.  My grandparents divorced in the 1940's. It was a very tragical thing to happen to my father and his siblings. My grandmother ended up homeless and her kids taken away. We can look at today and be grateful that we do have help for women who find themselves in such situation, where as then they did not.


In the 1950's 75% of Catholics went to mass, today it is down to 25-30%. That is a frightening statistic.  It has been slowly on the decline. Some may say this is due to the sex abuse scandals but I believe there is more to it than that.  I  am also sure that there are some who would blame Vatican II.
I think there is more to it than that also.

Since the 1960's and actually for some people prior to the 1960's, there has been a decline in morals.    As I said, I don't believe the 1950's were all rosey and perfect because people have sinned since the snake snuck up on Eve back in the Garden of Eden.  There were definite moral issues in the 50's also. So, why the decline in mass attendance. Maybe partly the sex abuse scandals, maybe some of Vatican II but also because people are choosing to follow the culture of death and free sex that  increased at horrible rates in the 1960's.

Many question what happened in the 1960's to bring on such a sexual revolution.

Perhaps it was the birth control pill. This opened the door for free sex without worry about pregnancy. Of course Pope Paul VI warned us what would happen if contraception was made available.  Definitely seeing this come true.

1. Contraception would lead to conjugal infidelity
 More reasons for marital affairs without worry of pregnancy.

2. Contraceptive practice would lead to a “general lowering of morality.”
Sex has become free and easy and there is a definite increase in sexually oriented jokes, television shows, media and more

3. Contraception would lead men to cease respecting woman in their totality and would cause men to treat women as “mere instruments of selfish enjoyment” rather than as cherished partners.
Pornography is a multibillion dollar business today and because of the way it has caused men to view women, women are seen as objects for sexual self gratification.

4. And finally, widespread acceptance of contraception by couples would lead to a massive imposition of contraception by unscrupulous governments.
China among other countries force women to take contraception against their will.

Also, some say maybe it was penicillin. No more fear of sexual diseases.


Anti-establishment became very prevalent after the 1950's.  There was a rebellion against authority. Whereas the man of the 1940's felt a duty to his country and a loyalty to his commander, the man of the 1960's felt  no duty or loyalty and thus this has increased in prevalence ever since. True, we don't see hippies on street corners today playing guitars and smoking pot but there is a "what is in it for me?" or "I can do whatever I want and I don't want anyone telling me what to do."
If they look at the 1950's and before there was a respect for authority that bothers them.

One of the biggest issues usually brought up when one mentions the 1950's is the housewife. The homemaker. Women generally stayed at home, took care of the house, the cleaning, the meals and the husband and kids. It was very important to her. Family again was the most important thing to her. Until... Until she was told that it was not important and she needed to step out of the domestic humdrum and get a job and have a life of her own, find herself is what they used to say, so many women walked away from their families in the years following the 1950's and today if you don't have a career you are still looked down on as someone who hasn't got a brain. Women walked away from their families, so again looking back perhaps is a reminder of what women should be but don't want to be doing.


I think for me when I hear people say, you can't go back or time has moved on, I think, I know you can't go back but we can bring some of that forward. We can bring back family values, mom in the home,  lasting marriages, respect for authority, sexual purity, returning to going to Mass on Sundays. 

When the 1950's is brought up in a conversation as a point of reference for a moral compass, I remind myself it is not the time period they have a problem with but the values.  It is still a rebellion against goodness, and family and  choosing what is right. It is an attack on right from the wrong, an attack on what God calls us to do. If it was right then, it is still right now.













Friday, March 15, 2013

Prayer for Our New Pope

O God, the Shepherd and Ruler of all Your faithful people, mercifully look upon Your servant Pope Francis whom You have chosen as the chief Shepherd to preside over Your Church. We beg You to help him edify, both by word and example, those over whom he has charge, that he may reach everlasting life together with the flock entrusted to him. Through Christ our Lord. Amen.













http://www.ourcatholicprayers.com/prayers-for-the-pope.html

Habemus Papam - We Have a Pope

I haven't posted through all this going on with the resignation of Pope Benedict XVI. We of course pray very much for him and are ever so grateful for the awesome job he did. The most important job in the whole world. We were all sad to see him retire but most certainly understood his need to.

Through all the days of our church being without a pope, we prayed and trusted our Lord to bring us who we needed.

Praise our Lord He did. Pope Francis. 

We can all be very grateful to our Lord for sending us such a humble man. .


I thought I would post a few quotes from our new Pope:

Give no place, he said, to pessimism, which the devil offers us every day

if we are not praying to the Lord, we are praying to the devil.

“Courage, dear brothers!” Francis told them. (cardinals) “Probably half of us are in our old age. Old age, they say, is the seat of wisdom. The old ones have the wisdom that they have earned from walking through life, like old Simeon and Anna at the Temple, whose wisdom allowed them to recognize Jesus. Let us give wisdom to the youth: Like good wine that improves with age, let us give the youth the wisdom of our lives.”

“We can build so many things, but if we don’t confess Jesus Christ, then something is wrong. We will become a pitiful NGO [non-governmental organization], but not the Church, spouse of Christ,” Pope Francis said

“I would like all of us, after these days of grace, to have the courage, precisely the courage, to walk in the presence of the Lord, with the cross of the Lord, to edify the Church in the blood of the Lord poured out on the cross and to confess the only glory, that of Christ crucified. And, in this way, the Church will move forward,” he said as he finished his homily.



Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Lenten Prayer of Saint Ephreim

 

O Lord and Master of my life, take from me the spirit of sloth, despondency, lust of power and idle chatter.
Instead, give to me, Your servant, the spirit of wholeness of being, humility, patience and love.
O Lord and King, grant that I may be aware of my sins, and not judge my brother, for You are blessed to the ages of ages. Amen.

No Indecent Exposure

I guess it wasn't as bad then as we see today. In this clip young Bud is wearing his pants below his hips. Of course the parents are bothered and asking him to pull up his pants. How many times do I want to tell the world today to "pull up your pants." In today's world they are not just low, they are baggy making it very easy for them to fall down. I can remember not too long ago being in line to pay at an oil change business when a young man in front of me let his pants fall below his buttocks and he just continued with the business at hand, never bothering to pull them up until he needed to walk away. Another time my husband and I were sitting outside of our parish about to go in and a young man got out of the car next to us, was talking to a young girl and guess what? You guessed it, pants fell down below buttocks. Did he pull them up? No. He kept right on talking to her, exposing himself to her and whoever else was around. The immodesty today is horrible. Though they may be joking about pants falling down in this clip, today it happens. In the clip he is wearing a belt and I do believe if they fell down back then it would be considered indecent exposure. Not today. We talk alot about girls immodesty, and so we should but wouldn't you consider a young man's underwear showing be considered immodest or indecent also.










Sunday, November 18, 2012

Father Really Does Know Best





An Awesome Prayer, for such a time as this and hope we don't lose it.

I love to watch old shows. I love old movies and I love all the old sitcoms. I thought today I would watch a Father Knows Best. I first started watching a Christmas episode and then I decided it was too early and thought I would watch a Thanksgiving episode and then I ran across this. Many times people make fun of sitcoms such as Father Know's Best and maybe especially because they think it is corny but much of what happened in this episode still happens today. Father said something he shouldn't have. He criticized the youngest daughter's poem and hurt the little girl terribly. He needed to apologize and she was very forgiving. Isn't that how we should be of each other in our families. Forgiving. We know we will hurt each other but we learn to be forgiving. Hurting someone as we all do at times and then needing their forgiveness makes us realize how important they are to us.

Father also realized how grateful he was to live in a country where he could pray and worship and have religious freedom and also freedom of speech. This family was very grateful for such things. Things that seem to be at stake for us right now. Things that could be lost in the near future. I hope to remember this Thanksgiving and everyday our freedoms and pray they are maintained and pray through this time of uncertainty over the universal health care and the freedom of the Catholic church that more Catholics will grow in their faith and reach out to the world.




Diane